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Back to the start

I have sensed a shift related to my past for a while now.  It is almost as though some invisible layer is being lifted like a veil to show me the fundamentals of my childhood structure to highlight something essential for me at this very stage of my life; it sounds weird. I know.  Perhaps you can relate, take a read.

Over the years, through my inner work to heal and grow, I have often visited my childhood experiences to seek meaning and understanding and express and receive forgiveness energetically.

The driving force within my inner being to heal from the deep sadness, pain, hatred, shame, anger, and possibly more that I have no words for has propelled me forward in many of my life journeys.

It’s with gratitude that I acknowledge that I have always been divinely led and drawn to techniques or practitioners who were able to facilitate this process of healing for me.  It is often a struggle to surrender and learn from what was. This is the fundamental reason that I also hold this space for others professionally.

The epiphany I had today while driving is that I am happy to return to my roots within. I have fought these roots for many a year.  It is ok to be different, to live my life outside of the norms of society, and this time these choices carry no shame.  In saying no to others comes the deep understanding and acceptance that possibly they are not able to be there for me either. I am freeing them and me.

This looked very different for me as a child, I was not allowed to participate in anything, and I was often alone. There was no one there hence the deep emotions I held and tried to drown out over most of my adult life.

I made it my life’s manic mission to go out there and meet people no matter what without ever being aware of what a price I and those who loved me paid for that inner drive to connect at any cost.

One of my many passions is interacting with people and observing my and their reactions within the setting, but now it’s about being alone again—this time by choice. I am not sulking or being forced to.  It’s pretty liberating.

With the Festive Season almost here, this is probably the best gift I can give myself.  The peace from within me to be me this season. To withdraw lovingly from others during the festivities is ok.  Hell, my childhood prepped me for this a long time ago. Thank you, Mom.

What choices are you making for yourself this season?

Much Love over this festive season

From my heart to yours.




Hello.  It’s been ages since I last wrote anything.  There have been lots of thoughts and ideas tumbling around in my head.  I have started many blogs, I even recorded a few sentences, and nothing inspired me enough to write about them.  That seems to be a theme in my life now.  So many great ideas, and yet they seem to dissolve into nothingness.  Which got me inspired again to write this today.  No-thing-ness.  What does that even mean!?

I looked it up; that’s what we do right when we need to know what something means, relying on a digital source outside of ourselves, bizarre that.   These are the meanings that stood out for me from my search.

the quality or state of being nothing: nonexistence,  utter insignificance, death, valueless, voi

The question is am I alone in this feeling of No-thing-ness, in this void, this insignificance

Personally, I believe we all arrive at this point at various junctures in our life, those major turning points.   It is a place I recognize, it feels familiar and yet different at the same time.  I can now in hindsight pinpoint when and identify the events that led up to these periods where I  reached the breaking point.   I almost always felt so close to the point of giving up as I did not have the strength to continue along the path, or so it seemed, I lacked the energy to push through and make the breakthrough. So close and yet so far.  Sometimes I had some divine intervention when I received a second breath and other times I would ignore the intervention and see it as meddling and interfering in my life.   I would really give up, destroy or run away from love and relationships, hide from friends, and treat myself with no respect whatsoever.  My work always carried me through.   As I have moved further along my healing journey these bouts of self-destroying elements became less severe, as I have been able to recognize the need to run or hurt myself and accept the helping hand when it is reached out, it does not make it easier though does it?

If you are feeling this way, I urge you to reach out to others and talk it out, find a professional or trauma practitioner like myself, to hold the space for you while the feelings move through you, write it, draw it, shout it in the wind, sit with it, and know that NOTHING is permanent, including no-thing-ness.  That’s the joke our mind plays on us, we truly believe everything is permanent on the subconscious level and struggle our whole lives to accept that it isn’t.

There have been times when my behaviour may have looked as if I was running away from others, or more appropriately put, running away from myself, however, I felt totally in control of my no-thing-ness which always translated into aloneness, sadness, sadistic behaviour, self-loathing, resentment,  grief, and isolation.  They are synonymous with no-thingness in my opinion. It did not matter I was in control!

Today this no-thing-ness feels like I am preparing to go on a journey, another chosen opportunity, a soul nudge,  to release and surrender more than I have already.

Surrender to what is rather than this obsessive need to control or change it out of fear.  Fear has had the reigns long enough.  A more truthful, heartfelt way to say that would be to finally stop running from me.

How?  Well therein lies the opportunity for us all to find the individual creative outlet to do so.  I personally am allowing myself the space to be and feel it through today,  not to reach out just notice how that feels.  Giving myself permission to receive when the gifts of healing present themselves.  This is a gift from my soul saying “here you are let’s sit with how you are feeling”,  acknowledge, embrace it and then surrender to the healing moment as the feeling becomes the no-thing-ness and releases.

May your journey be one of beauty and surrender.  Find the space for yourselves to expand your energy and fill any spaces left open after the release with loving energy before the space can become anything less.

Much Love along your journey

From my heart to yours.


Parallel Realities

Parallel Realities


Hello, again beautiful souls.

It is with a light heart and a gentle smile that I sit here typing this blog, knowing that possibly a few of you may wonder after reading it if I have lost the plot completely.

A blog for me is an expression of myself and in this case that I am sharing with you.  Allowing my vulnerability to be real and tangible for myself too in this moment.

Have you ever felt , considered, or even dreamed that you are existing in more than one “place”/reality?  As babies, we are born into this physical reality and then we get to adorn a cloak based on our parent’s or caregiver’s version of what it is to be a Human Being in the reality that we are born into. It’s a lifelong struggle to work to develop our truth of that reality before we leave this body.  Working through the maze to get to live our purpose is why we are here in my opinion.  We are provided with lots of assistance along the way when we observe a little more and do a little less.

Perhaps you wore the cloak of one or all of the main Archetypes ( Caroline Myss).  ( a Child, a Survivor, a Victim, or a Prostitute)

I know I missed the child part in my life,  I never got to play, and I believe one of my lessons here is to have fun.  I bought into the victim hook line and sinker until I released her to become the survivor.  The prostitute, on the other hand, is an interesting Architype as it suggests trading sexual pleasure or manipulation for pleasure, however, if we allow our minds to think of the broader sense of the word, it is a manipulation of events for our own gain. I am definitely aware of this reality in my actions over my lifetime.

Selling our souls for food, money, recognition, “love”, a roof over our heads – fill in the blanks as per your experience.  I will say that these archetypes are not gendered specific, so it applies to us all.  What are you selling your soul for?  Ironically, we often do this to survive.

We can meditate, take psychedelics, go on pilgrimages or journeys and tick off the list to experience other realities,  which all add so much value and provide the space for release and clarity,  and therein we become more aware of what our reality really is.   There are lots of studies on this subject, research is at our fingertips.

We don’t all have those opportunities or share those beliefs though, yet we too could feel or be uncomfortable that our reality  is not what we signed up for, isn’t it? Consider that statement for a moment!  Really is that true?  Who created your reality, assuming you are not a minor reading this?  My rudest awakening was when I realized with huge shock years ago, that I am creating the struggle, the mess, the pain by resisting what is.  What are you resisting?  Could there be another reality for you? And could it be living with a more open awareness of what is, not the meaning we give it?  Does this mean you need to let something go perhaps?

What if those other realities are actually here, right now in our conscious space, but we are not ready yet to acknowledge them yet?  Could you consider looking at the state your life is in for a moment, without judgment, and see what else you can see or what you become aware of, like an observer, not a participant?  What more can you expand your conscious awareness into seeing as possibilities for yourself?  There really are no limits.  We put the limits there.

Allow yourself to dream the dream into reality without the aspect of time attached.  It is all in divine/organic/energetic timing,  not our linear controlled version of time.  An example of this would be when we force the outcome of something, according to an expectation of ours and somehow feel deeply dissatisfied afterward deep down, even if outwardly we express a different view.

In conclusion, the message is that there are lots of realities in our daily lives, it’s the path you choose to focus on that becomes the deepest, what if you could walk alongside yourself and observe the steps along the way, how cool would that be?  Don’t knock it, it really does work in my world and those I am priviledged to interact with.  The reality changes as you observe it and as you let go of the control.  It is somehow always perfect.  We learn.  We are blessed and supported even when we forget to ask.

Much love and light from my heart to yours along the journey.

Have fun!




Hello there.  Wherever you may be in the world today the sun is shining somewhere. We are getting to the end of Winter here in the Southern Hemisphere and I am so aware that this was a winter of extremes for me, and I would imagine I am not alone.  My connections in the Northern hemisphere have been having their extremes too.

It’s amazing how as human beings we most often focus on the things we are experiencing in extremes, for example, It’s too cold, too hot, too much, too little, too difficult, too bitter, too close, too scary, too busy …and so on.

I have become very more aware of what I am focussing on of late. I was feeling drained and exhausted and burned out.  I made a deal with myself to take myself off to a space where there was nothing to focus on except nature and self-care to understand how I got here and how much that contributed to the responses I was receiving from others and then release what no longer served me and more and re-negotiate a new way for me to be.  How I would show up each moment?   In a way, it is an organic process.  It’s playing out daily as new learning for me to be patient with myself and those around me to allow for the creation of  harmony.  Some days it is easier than others, honestly.

I am the first to admit that changing focus requires some self-negotiation and that is what I was struggling with.  I now understand that it is not so much about doing but acknowledging what is, without fear, resignation, and/or expectation.  You may be like me in that  your profession or friendship circles you assist others through their process of change and therefore you may too may have received the reflection from others that perfection seems like a state that eludes us continually, a goal never reached!

I am here today to share with you that I believe now that perfection is in every moment we receive in this physical life. A perfect blessing.   Every little special nugget of information, realization, epiphany, feedback, intervention, or interaction all add to the perfection of knowing that I am in the place I am meant to be.  It is the ability to observe the discomfort or comfort with gratitude as they both bring huge insights.  When our physical body alerts us to pain there is a reason, a warning, our emotions and thoughts are no different.  Something is brewing and it is advisable to lift the lid to observe to see what you’re working with.

This is my way of looking at things – you are welcome to add your comments to what works for you.  Someone out there may need to read your experience in their low moment to remind them that they are not alone.

This is what I do in my low moments, after pacing and distracting myself often that is 😊.

I ask myself a few questions.

What is the root cause of my unsettled feeling?  I don’t know is possibly my standard response, what if I did know I wonder what it could be……?

I then take this into a journalling space, a meditation, a walk, a yoga class, or something similar to make the space for stillness allowing the answers to arise to the fore for me.  I sometimes will reach for a friend, a heart circle or professional to chat it through.

This does not always work though, does it?  Here comes another word that often appears in my self-reflection and self-feedback and that is Acceptance.  Just typing that loaded word triggers some emotion for me.

Acceptance is more about letting go of the need to control the situation and less about complacency or becoming a victim.  I accept and take responsibility for how I got here and how I feel about it, now what is there that I can change right now to make my life simpler and more aligned to my purpose?

Do I wish to continue as it is?


What do I feel I could change now, short term, long term?  Do I want to change?

My attitude towards the circumstance could be blocking me and what am I not seeing while I have been staring at the problem?

More often than not herein lie the nuggets, those deep gratitude moments for me.

What do I believe about myself in this situation and how does that serve me now, it possibly served me at another time, but now? Can I release that belief now?  There is the gift from my heart to yours.

Until next time there are some things for us all to ponder.

You are welcome to reach out if you need support in your process.

Much Love


Eclipse in reality for me

Eclipse in reality for me

Hello there once again.  It’s been more than a month since I last wrote anything.  It’s been a month of growth, turbulence, flooding, and excessive heat, cold and now the Winter Solstice is upon us in the Southern Hemisphere.

Perhaps you too have been feeling the shift in energy all around of late.  It is almost as though people are back in the swing of things and the world goes on.  Yet there is still so much mayhem and disparity amongst people that I am often saddened more by the drive for people to continue business as usual.  The underlying stressors and fear that lurk deep within humanity are still there.  In my humble opinion unless we address those emotions we are traveling along a slippery slope.

In my own experience in my own life, family history, my studies, and my work, the realization that unresolved emotion is our worst enemy is primary for me.  That leads me to believe that I at times am my own worst enemy! Perhaps this is true for you too.

That is quite something to say out aloud.  Phew.

How do I change that for myself?

It is far easier to focus on others and their behaviours.  I have been feeling of late that there is almost some kind of karmic release for me.  I am watching old patterns in myself and others rearing their heads. So today is the perfect pivotal point for me at the  event of the winter solstice to release those patterns.  The solstice-to-solstice journey has been very significant for me this year, almost like an ending. Perhaps it has something to do with the fact that I share my birthday date with the summer solstice.  Either way I am ready to shed the old skin and allow the new energised me to emerge.

How?  That is not so much the question for me !  The willingness to accept me for who I have become is the vital point for me recently.  The” allowing” of me to be the being that I have suppressed up to now out of fear of what would happen if I freed myself to be me wholly.  There is no collateral damage is there when we live a life that is more deeply rooted in our own spiritual growth, truth or purpose?  Our inner knowing really kicks in at this point.  That is my belief atleast.

Let’s stop kidding ourselves about these ego points we develop about who we are.  We are part of one source.  Yes, that has two sides,  the wonderful me and the shadow me!  For years I have deluded myself that the shadow is something that is apart from me, the dark side, the moody horrible B… that emerges.  Well, I know now that she is a part of me and she too needs love and nurturing so that we can merge and integrate into a more loving and kind soul for myself.  This in turn allows me to  serve those around me with more love rather than with obligation or need.

  • I encourage You,  reading this blog to consider  aknowledging and loving your shadow side too, include that part, warts and all as you integrate more into a whole being, knowing that those are all parts of the beautiful being that you are now!  Acceptance is the Key.

Much Love

From my heart to yours.