Hey there friends,
I wanted to share something with you today that I’ve come to understand about myself and how I make decisions. As we all know, life can be full of choices, and knowing which path to take can be challenging. But I’ve realized that our intuition is our best guide and that gut feeling or inner voice tells us what feels right and doesn’t.
Now, I know that sometimes our intuition can be hard to hear. We might be surrounded by noise or be so focused on what we think we should do that we miss the signals our intuition sends us. But that’s why it’s so important to stop and listen when things don’t resonate. We should find a space to understand the feeling, not change it.
And here’s the thing, our perspective on things can change over time. What felt right yesterday may not feel right today. And that’s okay. It’s important to be respectful of how our decisions might affect others, but at the end of the day, being true to ourselves is the most important thing.
So, if you’re ever in a situation where you’re unsure of what to do, take a step back, take a deep breath, and tap into your intuition. See what it tells you, and remember, it’s okay to change your mind and grow as a person. Trust yourself. Trust your gut. It is easier than you may think.
Until we meet again. From my heart to yours.
Much love. Marléne
I started this Blog a little over a year ago, in 2021, and I wanted to be more active on it, bearing my soul. With the year I have experienced, I now understand that I have only been scratching at the surface. My initial purpose was to share my journey and create a space of possibility for myself and knowing that someone else out there will resonate. It seems very apt, though, that I only share when I am ready to “Talk from my heart.”
I have lived with many loaded, negative, gut-wrenching emotions most of my life. I have suppressed these emotions when they have surfaced, creating the implosion within or eruption to burn and wield my fire outward to harm others. Keep them at a distance. You may be able to resonate with this; both options have the potential to destroy beauty, love, and connection with yourself and others. I have craved this very thing I have pushed away. These beliefs have created layers of patterns of reaction to events and actions of others in my environment, real or perceived. My take on the story is mine to deal with, but I blamed others for how I felt. I have had so many questions. I am sure you have too in your experience. Why am I so sensitive? Why are others causing disruption? Why is this stuff resurfacing? Why am I still trapped? Why is everything in my life an uphill battle? Mostly I blamed others, though, if I were to be transparent.
I have developed the strategy to act out of character or keep my opinions to myself to be accepted and popular. However, the latter was never so much of my need, tongue in cheek. It may be yours too? I share this with you today, for your loving reflection. I am not there at this point, but I was. It has taken much effort to shift some of these patterns.
Honestly, there are more layers than I initially believed or felt prepared for. I have often felt tired along this journey. That is how I feel today, exhausted to the core. I often wonder why I chose this life of opening wounds to heal, when so many others haven’t. I feel incredibly grateful for each little gift I have been given, irrespective of how difficult it may have been to step back from the pain and observe my next shift on my road back to me.
The path I have walked has primarily been me feeling restricted and boxed in by circumstances that are ‘beyond my control.’ I thought that I was a lifetime prisoner to circumstance. I am beginning to learn that knowing how I feel is the only way to know what to do next. It is from these hurtful, frustrating, depleted feelings that creativity is born, and thankfully, I am starting to realize that, albeit slowly.
I have set my intention for the opportunity for me to make emotional denial almost impossible. It is what it is. Hard cold fact until I believe differently about the same situation. I am feeling these emotions now raw and base. What can I do to understand that there are no expectations that serve me? These expectations I learned to create in my childhood of myself and others have caused so much pain all these years. It is time to free myself from expectations on this layer I am working through now.
My way is causing more stress and anxiety. That state of embracing the moment where I can be myself, pain or peace is all judgment. I came here to experience what it feels like to be myself. I embraced the role wholeheartedly, playing judge and jury and issuing the sentence. Time to let that pattern go.
The word Freedom was always an enigma. The song “I want to break free” by Queen always resonated deeply with me. I sang out of tune as loudly as possible and stood on tables in alcohol and drug-induced melancholy about my life’s mission to be free from the chains. Peacefully and with enormous gratitude, I sit here writing this blog with a smile forming, 1818 days sober, and with the realization that despite my sober mind, I have continued to strive for something I had no idea I already had.
Yup, you guessed it. Freedom. It is a choice.
I can continue to ignore and suppress my needs and desires. Those that my soul has been underling and highlighting in neon colours for decades, this is a choice.
It is safe, familiar, and often a cosy choice to ignore that I can have all I feel I deserve. What do I believe I deserve? My beliefs have allowed me to stay angry and hurt and push people away from me. That is beginning to sound like hard work to me. This juggling act of simultaneously being connected and suppressing my connection to myself.
In the last stretch of my life, the realization is that it is now or never. I intend to free myself from the pause rinse and repeat pattern I have mastered.
Don’t get me wrong; I have not been hiding in the shadows for years; to the contrary. I have created the internal struggle. I have endured almost unbearable moments that I wish to forget as I held on to those old debilitating beliefs to keep myself trapped. I feel sad on some level that it has taken me so long and yet today again there is a space to let go again, painful as it is to both feel and give myself the permission to be free.
I have made the following choices in this moment to open my mind to the possibilities of what could be, irrespective of where I may find myself or what I feel.
I have set the intention for myself to release the old pattern I am aware of now in this moment. It is with an inner knowing that I am finally free to make that choice. It is all up to me. The question is will I, or will I grab on tightly just in case? I am free to do either.
Thank you for witnessing my process. This is akin to thinking out loud and realizing someone heard you.
What is your intention?
Until we meet here again from my heart to yours.
I have sensed a shift related to my past for a while now. It is almost as though some invisible layer is being lifted like a veil to show me the fundamentals of my childhood structure to highlight something essential for me at this very stage of my life; it sounds weird. I know. Perhaps you can relate, take a read.
Over the years, through my inner work to heal and grow, I have often visited my childhood experiences to seek meaning and understanding and express and receive forgiveness energetically.
The driving force within my inner being to heal from the deep sadness, pain, hatred, shame, anger, and possibly more that I have no words for has propelled me forward in many of my life journeys.
It’s with gratitude that I acknowledge that I have always been divinely led and drawn to techniques or practitioners who were able to facilitate this process of healing for me. It is often a struggle to surrender and learn from what was. This is the fundamental reason that I also hold this space for others professionally.
The epiphany I had today while driving is that I am happy to return to my roots within. I have fought these roots for many a year. It is ok to be different, to live my life outside of the norms of society, and this time these choices carry no shame. In saying no to others comes the deep understanding and acceptance that possibly they are not able to be there for me either. I am freeing them and me.
This looked very different for me as a child, I was not allowed to participate in anything, and I was often alone. There was no one there hence the deep emotions I held and tried to drown out over most of my adult life.
I made it my life’s manic mission to go out there and meet people no matter what without ever being aware of what a price I and those who loved me paid for that inner drive to connect at any cost.
One of my many passions is interacting with people and observing my and their reactions within the setting, but now it’s about being alone again—this time by choice. I am not sulking or being forced to. It’s pretty liberating.
With the Festive Season almost here, this is probably the best gift I can give myself. The peace from within me to be me this season. To withdraw lovingly from others during the festivities is ok. Hell, my childhood prepped me for this a long time ago. Thank you, Mom.
What choices are you making for yourself this season?
Much Love over this festive season
From my heart to yours.
Hello. It’s been ages since I last wrote anything. There have been lots of thoughts and ideas tumbling around in my head. I have started many blogs, I even recorded a few sentences, and nothing inspired me enough to write about them. That seems to be a theme in my life now. So many great ideas, and yet they seem to dissolve into nothingness. Which got me inspired again to write this today. No-thing-ness. What does that even mean!?
I looked it up; that’s what we do right when we need to know what something means, relying on a digital source outside of ourselves, bizarre that. These are the meanings that stood out for me from my search.
the quality or state of being nothing: nonexistence, utter insignificance, death, valueless, voi
The question is am I alone in this feeling of No-thing-ness, in this void, this insignificance
Personally, I believe we all arrive at this point at various junctures in our life, those major turning points. It is a place I recognize, it feels familiar and yet different at the same time. I can now in hindsight pinpoint when and identify the events that led up to these periods where I reached the breaking point. I almost always felt so close to the point of giving up as I did not have the strength to continue along the path, or so it seemed, I lacked the energy to push through and make the breakthrough. So close and yet so far. Sometimes I had some divine intervention when I received a second breath and other times I would ignore the intervention and see it as meddling and interfering in my life. I would really give up, destroy or run away from love and relationships, hide from friends, and treat myself with no respect whatsoever. My work always carried me through. As I have moved further along my healing journey these bouts of self-destroying elements became less severe, as I have been able to recognize the need to run or hurt myself and accept the helping hand when it is reached out, it does not make it easier though does it?
If you are feeling this way, I urge you to reach out to others and talk it out, find a professional or trauma practitioner like myself, to hold the space for you while the feelings move through you, write it, draw it, shout it in the wind, sit with it, and know that NOTHING is permanent, including no-thing-ness. That’s the joke our mind plays on us, we truly believe everything is permanent on the subconscious level and struggle our whole lives to accept that it isn’t.
There have been times when my behaviour may have looked as if I was running away from others, or more appropriately put, running away from myself, however, I felt totally in control of my no-thing-ness which always translated into aloneness, sadness, sadistic behaviour, self-loathing, resentment, grief, and isolation. They are synonymous with no-thingness in my opinion. It did not matter I was in control!
Today this no-thing-ness feels like I am preparing to go on a journey, another chosen opportunity, a soul nudge, to release and surrender more than I have already.
Surrender to what is rather than this obsessive need to control or change it out of fear. Fear has had the reigns long enough. A more truthful, heartfelt way to say that would be to finally stop running from me.
How? Well therein lies the opportunity for us all to find the individual creative outlet to do so. I personally am allowing myself the space to be and feel it through today, not to reach out just notice how that feels. Giving myself permission to receive when the gifts of healing present themselves. This is a gift from my soul saying “here you are let’s sit with how you are feeling”, acknowledge, embrace it and then surrender to the healing moment as the feeling becomes the no-thing-ness and releases.
May your journey be one of beauty and surrender. Find the space for yourselves to expand your energy and fill any spaces left open after the release with loving energy before the space can become anything less.
Much Love along your journey
From my heart to yours.
Hello, again beautiful souls.
It is with a light heart and a gentle smile that I sit here typing this blog, knowing that possibly a few of you may wonder after reading it if I have lost the plot completely.
A blog for me is an expression of myself and in this case that I am sharing with you. Allowing my vulnerability to be real and tangible for myself too in this moment.
Have you ever felt , considered, or even dreamed that you are existing in more than one “place”/reality? As babies, we are born into this physical reality and then we get to adorn a cloak based on our parent’s or caregiver’s version of what it is to be a Human Being in the reality that we are born into. It’s a lifelong struggle to work to develop our truth of that reality before we leave this body. Working through the maze to get to live our purpose is why we are here in my opinion. We are provided with lots of assistance along the way when we observe a little more and do a little less.
Perhaps you wore the cloak of one or all of the main Archetypes ( Caroline Myss). ( a Child, a Survivor, a Victim, or a Prostitute)
I know I missed the child part in my life, I never got to play, and I believe one of my lessons here is to have fun. I bought into the victim hook line and sinker until I released her to become the survivor. The prostitute, on the other hand, is an interesting Architype as it suggests trading sexual pleasure or manipulation for pleasure, however, if we allow our minds to think of the broader sense of the word, it is a manipulation of events for our own gain. I am definitely aware of this reality in my actions over my lifetime.
Selling our souls for food, money, recognition, “love”, a roof over our heads – fill in the blanks as per your experience. I will say that these archetypes are not gendered specific, so it applies to us all. What are you selling your soul for? Ironically, we often do this to survive.
We can meditate, take psychedelics, go on pilgrimages or journeys and tick off the list to experience other realities, which all add so much value and provide the space for release and clarity, and therein we become more aware of what our reality really is. There are lots of studies on this subject, research is at our fingertips.
We don’t all have those opportunities or share those beliefs though, yet we too could feel or be uncomfortable that our reality is not what we signed up for, isn’t it? Consider that statement for a moment! Really is that true? Who created your reality, assuming you are not a minor reading this? My rudest awakening was when I realized with huge shock years ago, that I am creating the struggle, the mess, the pain by resisting what is. What are you resisting? Could there be another reality for you? And could it be living with a more open awareness of what is, not the meaning we give it? Does this mean you need to let something go perhaps?
What if those other realities are actually here, right now in our conscious space, but we are not ready yet to acknowledge them yet? Could you consider looking at the state your life is in for a moment, without judgment, and see what else you can see or what you become aware of, like an observer, not a participant? What more can you expand your conscious awareness into seeing as possibilities for yourself? There really are no limits. We put the limits there.
Allow yourself to dream the dream into reality without the aspect of time attached. It is all in divine/organic/energetic timing, not our linear controlled version of time. An example of this would be when we force the outcome of something, according to an expectation of ours and somehow feel deeply dissatisfied afterward deep down, even if outwardly we express a different view.
In conclusion, the message is that there are lots of realities in our daily lives, it’s the path you choose to focus on that becomes the deepest, what if you could walk alongside yourself and observe the steps along the way, how cool would that be? Don’t knock it, it really does work in my world and those I am priviledged to interact with. The reality changes as you observe it and as you let go of the control. It is somehow always perfect. We learn. We are blessed and supported even when we forget to ask.
Much love and light from my heart to yours along the journey.