Hello there. Wherever you may be in the world today the sun is shining somewhere. We are getting to the end of Winter here in the Southern Hemisphere and I am so aware that this was a winter of extremes for me, and I would imagine I am not alone. My connections in the Northern hemisphere have been having their extremes too.
It’s amazing how as human beings we most often focus on the things we are experiencing in extremes, for example, It’s too cold, too hot, too much, too little, too difficult, too bitter, too close, too scary, too busy …and so on.
I have become very more aware of what I am focussing on of late. I was feeling drained and exhausted and burned out. I made a deal with myself to take myself off to a space where there was nothing to focus on except nature and self-care to understand how I got here and how much that contributed to the responses I was receiving from others and then release what no longer served me and more and re-negotiate a new way for me to be. How I would show up each moment? In a way, it is an organic process. It’s playing out daily as new learning for me to be patient with myself and those around me to allow for the creation of harmony. Some days it is easier than others, honestly.
I am the first to admit that changing focus requires some self-negotiation and that is what I was struggling with. I now understand that it is not so much about doing but acknowledging what is, without fear, resignation, and/or expectation. You may be like me in that your profession or friendship circles you assist others through their process of change and therefore you may too may have received the reflection from others that perfection seems like a state that eludes us continually, a goal never reached!
I am here today to share with you that I believe now that perfection is in every moment we receive in this physical life. A perfect blessing. Every little special nugget of information, realization, epiphany, feedback, intervention, or interaction all add to the perfection of knowing that I am in the place I am meant to be. It is the ability to observe the discomfort or comfort with gratitude as they both bring huge insights. When our physical body alerts us to pain there is a reason, a warning, our emotions and thoughts are no different. Something is brewing and it is advisable to lift the lid to observe to see what you’re working with.
This is my way of looking at things – you are welcome to add your comments to what works for you. Someone out there may need to read your experience in their low moment to remind them that they are not alone.
This is what I do in my low moments, after pacing and distracting myself often that is 😊.
I ask myself a few questions.
What is the root cause of my unsettled feeling? I don’t know is possibly my standard response, what if I did know I wonder what it could be……?
I then take this into a journalling space, a meditation, a walk, a yoga class, or something similar to make the space for stillness allowing the answers to arise to the fore for me. I sometimes will reach for a friend, a heart circle or professional to chat it through.
This does not always work though, does it? Here comes another word that often appears in my self-reflection and self-feedback and that is Acceptance. Just typing that loaded word triggers some emotion for me.
Acceptance is more about letting go of the need to control the situation and less about complacency or becoming a victim. I accept and take responsibility for how I got here and how I feel about it, now what is there that I can change right now to make my life simpler and more aligned to my purpose?
Do I wish to continue as it is?
What do I feel I could change now, short term, long term? Do I want to change?
My attitude towards the circumstance could be blocking me and what am I not seeing while I have been staring at the problem?
More often than not herein lie the nuggets, those deep gratitude moments for me.
What do I believe about myself in this situation and how does that serve me now, it possibly served me at another time, but now? Can I release that belief now? There is the gift from my heart to yours.
Until next time there are some things for us all to ponder.
You are welcome to reach out if you need support in your process.